Our Black Men

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Good Black Men! are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets,
in the malls, and at work. Most we can't see because we don't know what
a good black man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or
rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus.
He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you
mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back
rather than someone who turns your head.

A good black man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say.
He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He
doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he
won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may
clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even
admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the
same.

A good black man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He
is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful,
strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that
you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare,
'Aha! I knew you were a dog!'

A good black man isn't insecure about his woman having great
achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes
disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for
the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy.
His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and
accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman
will bring her good man right along with her. THANK YOU, THANK YOU,
THANK YOU!!

A good black man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or
Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to
him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy
tale. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth
that our black men are no good. It's just not true.

A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means
what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he
is going to call or show up - he is dependable. That is right!

A good black man has a love and a heart for his Higher Power. As his
relationship and love with that Higher Power grows so will his
relationship and love with and for you grow. (AMEN!!!)Our beautiful
black men, we salute you, appreciate you and thank you for who you are
and all you've done.