if you have have a kid but things aren't going well or working out between you and whoever you had your kid with don't take your anger and fustration out on the situation at hand if ther person is trying hard and you see that they are don't become the reason they can't see they kid because then you become the hinderance on why they can't spend time with they kid it's not fair to them our the child it's just down right selfish and bitterness