To reminisce on a sensation guided by the flesh can impart a sense of confusion by ones of uncertainty. Gaining certainty requires an endurance that fights back the urge of temptation that feeds the part of infatuation that could make the weak not be able to discern love from lust.
"The treachery of the heart" feeds the thoughts of doubt and loneliness. Only then should the power of the mind embrace the loneliness as a gift and doubts as discernment of what decision to partake next.
Strip yourself of the lust in their flesh for you and educate yourself on love deserved by Divine hearts chosen of the Most High. Unconditional is not a burden, so hold back the nectar of your being until the one for you proves to be. Don't allow settlement for less as they will see the worth known in you not to do so.
Lust is a condition of incarceration. Love is flowing freedom unshaken by rocking waves. Lust is not your peek, it's your darkness. Love is peace, it's light, and God is your bond that guides both beings to a Divine mountain of lasting security.