Beating your kids limits their range of motion in how they express themselves but its always the case for survival isn't it. We don't want to see them die so they can't express themselves. THEY SHOULD THOUGH.
You can defeat up to 5 enemy using your hands but defeat 5,000 using your words. The true power is in the spoken word and how you wield it. It should not be on what is wielded about you.
But these are the lessons we learned and we try to pass it on, its slavery. I could not have said it any simpler than that. We have the true power of the expressive word and we need to use that power.
So USE YOUR WORDS.