if one understood the choice one made then one cannot be blamed for making a mistake because one understood a choice had to be made even if the choice made appears to be wrong in the eyes of others one should not carry the blame any further people tend to run with half of the truth and not the whole truth pointing blame at others while lacking proof in what they believe to be true one usually suffers under such scrutiny without help from anyone else one must learn to exonerate oneself wrong and right is just polarity spearhead by a blame culture mentality